Being a good husband and father is a never ending process. There are a few things I try to keep in mind that help.
First, I try to not say “I don’t have time”. Instead I say “I didn’t make time”. It changes the way I think about things. It forces me to prioritize my time and how I want to spend it.
Second, I put me first. I suck at this one. I’m always making sure everyone around me is “okay” before I do anything for me. When I do that I rarely relax and that has a bad affect on my mood and decisions.
Finally, be present, now. I’m enjoying the cup of coffee I’m drinking, I laugh at the silly jokes my son tells me & I enjoy the meals I eat with my wife. It matters, when I think about the next thing I need to do or the work that hasn’t been finished, I miss important moments and my family doesn’t get all of me.
Like I said I try to keep these in mind. It is very difficult, especially when there are deadlines, and stress, and too much to do.